Interview With Motherhood Artist Katie m. Berggren (and Mother’s Day Special Offer!)

I am so honored for the opportunity to interview internationally recognized award-winning painter and mother Katie m. Berggren.  You may already be familiar with her beautiful paintings or perhaps you are discovering her here for the first time.  I am deeply moved by the warmth, love and magic captured between mother and child in her paintings and I know you will be too!

NM:  Hi Katie! Thank you for taking the time to answer a few questions.  Can you please share a little bit about yourself? 

Katie m. Berggren

KB:  Thank you Lacey, certainly. I grew up in the country with my parents, two older brothers and my older sister. We loved being outside, but when forced to be in, we all four gravitated toward make-believe, drawing, reading and playing school and games. We had a crazy television signal so we didn’t hardly bother sitting and watching, except on Saturday mornings for cartoons. I feel that the lack of “plugging in” allowed us ample time to explore the gifts we had inside us. 30 years later, we are all artists of one kind or another. My father was an entrepreneur and he had us help him in the business. We learned a work ethic from him, that we all now employ. All four of us are self-employed.

I love people.  I love to watch and learn. I love to see mothers with their children and study the relationships of those around me. I love watching documentaries about people and lifestyles. I like watching others.

I am blessed with a great husband and two creative and inspiring little boys. Their love is my muse.

NM:  How would you describe your paintings?

KB:  I would describe my paintings as moments scratched feverishly onto canvas or board with lots and lots of paint! Stories and figures and relationships that have come through because they need to be seen and shared. Stories that need to be told. I love tucking figures together, seeing how bodies can twirl, fold and interact. I see these paintings as messages. Messages for me, most definitely, to pay attention and be still. I’ve been so honored to discover that they go out into the world to act as messages for others as well.

In regard to the Commissioned Paintings, these pieces are created to capture a moment for a loving family. I allow myself to be inspired by their photos and their story, then let the paint flow for them.

NM:  How did you discover your love of painting?

KB:  I always wanted to be “an artist, a teacher, and a mother.” I tried many art materials during my years at community college, then decided to become a graphic designer and went off to University. A few years later, after doing computer design, digital art, and colored pencil illustrations for clients, I was reunited with the joy of paint. I was painting a mural on my baby boy’s wall ~ a whale family taken from a colored pencil illustration I’d completed ~ and I remember reaching up with the painted brush and with that first smear of paint across the bumpy wall, I was re-hooked. WHY? I asked myself, did I ever walk away from painting?! I got my supplies out of the closet and began painting the next day. Never looking back. Painting is my meditation, my education, my doorway to a quiet mind.

NM:  Who are some of your favorite artists?

KB:  At one point I went searching for motherhood artists who that I could say I was inspired by (because people have always asked!). I like Mary Cassatt. Her paintings of the life going on around us are charming, beautiful and fleshy. I also very much like Gustav Klimt’s color and pattern.

In truth, there is only one artist that awoke something within me when I was young ~ an urge to capture emotion and to paint life and the human condition in all its honest rawness. Her name is Kathe Kollwitz ~ a german sculptor, printmaker and painter creating emotional works during the early 1900s. I studied Kathe Kollwitz when I was in middle school and her work affected me in a way that I couldn’t have imagined until I started my own art exploration years later.

NM:  What mediums, materials and tools do you use in your paintings?

KB:  Acrylic paints became my medium right away because I had small children (they are still rather small!) because of the quickness of drying and the lack of solvents. I still love acrylics. I love being able to paint over a spot 12 times if I desire, knowing the paint will be dry, allowing me to retry. Acrylic paint is forgiving, creamy and dreamy, for me. I paint on canvas mostly now, but I also enjoy painting on board. With brushes! More recently I’ve been experimenting with adding bits of paper to my pieces, and hand-written text. I look forward to more of that.

NM:  What are some of your favorite works that you have created?

KB:  There are some paintings that I consider Signature pieces ~ pieces that seem to be markers along my path. Here they are:

Lyric
© Katie m. Berggren

 

Home
© Katie m. Berggren

 

The Very Breath
© Katie m. Berggren

 

Simple Gifts
© Katie m. Berggren

 

NM:  From where do you draw your inspiration?

KB:  Often, inspiration first takes hold and makes its mark in the journal sketchbook. I try to keep it with me at all times. Inspiration is first born through words, phrases or sketches. Sometimes even one word will take me to the blank canvas and make itself known as an image that seems to come from nowhere. I am inspired by the people around me, families. I am inspired by nature and things frequently taken for granted. I am inspired by color and texture, architecture and natural shapes such as the bend of a branch on a tree, a bunch of berries, a leaf or a mushroom. In truth, I’m also inspired by a blank canvas! Such a thrill it is to approach that canvas, that is just waiting for a story.

Important to mention, also, is the inspiration drawn from the amazing community of mothers that I have discovered around me on Facebook and Twitter. I hear stories every day, and I see photos every day that touch my heart. I hear from mamas with such huge hearts and I just feel so much love for this virtual community.

NM:  How would you describe your creative process?

KB:  It is a very simple process! I look at the blank canvas. I sometimes have a sketch in the sketchbook that I glance at, or I have nothing but a word. Or I have nothing but an open mind. I take a brush, fill it with brown paint and start. I start my paintings in brown and white so that I may finesse the shape and form and purpose before adding color, clothing and hair. But most importantly, we must Start.

NM:  What do you want to capture in your work?

KB:  When I paint, I have in mind to capture a simple single moment, and to encourage myself and others to stop and see the moments that swirl around us on a daily basis. I have in mind to celebrate even the tiniest breath of peace that may come in a day of stress and chaos. I am also discovering that the paintings are telling me about internal peace, calm that we create inside ourselves, within a world where so many choose stress and busyness.

There is also an urge to honor a mama’s values for how she chooses to parent her child. To capture, celebrate and share the breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby-wearing and cuddling relationship.

NM:  Could you tell us about the Mindful Mothering Project?

KB:  Certainly! In general, I have many ideas for paintings, but sometimes, I desire to be inspired by another mother! So I have been asking my online community to send me photos of their families that, to them, represent Mindful Mothering. It may be breastfeeding, baby-wearing, sleeping together, eating together, walking together, crying together, cuddling. The list is endless because each mama has her own feelings of what makes her mothering special. When I’m in the mood, I take a peek into the Mindful Mothering Project photo folder and see what image inspires me. I look quickly, just to get the feeling of the image. Then, the chosen image is created into an original painting, and the entire process of the piece is shared through photographs on the Facebook page. Upon completion, the mama whose photo inspired the painting gets a free 12×12” print of the finished piece (a $29 value)! There are more details here.

NM:  The documentary Who Does She Think She Is? chronicles the lives of artists and their challenges to pursue their passions while nurturing families.  How do you balance “work” and motherhood?

KB:  I really enjoyed watching Who Does She Think She Is? and I can relate to many of the struggles these mothers face. None of us are automatically immune to the opinions of others. I started my art career when my boys were just babies, nursing while drawing, and sitting at the table while pregnant, doing art with my 1 year old son.

I did art when I had time, and because of a conviction to create, I made time almost every day. Before children, I did my drawings at a drafting table in my office. Once the children needed that room, my kitchen table was my ‘studio’ and I painted on small pieces of Masonite board. One night, while painting at the table, I realized that I had a fairly large laundry room just around the corner. It occurred to me that my art (and future career) deserved more space than dirty clothes! So I made myself a small studio in the laundry room. It worked great! I believe that we will do our work if we are called to do it, no matter where we find space. Waiting for a perfect ‘studio’ before beginning is resistance.

As my boys grew, I painted while they played, I painted while holding them on my hip, I painted with them. But mostly, I painted at night while the family slept. I did what I could do in the time I had and I didn’t beat myself up for much of anything (well, sometimes). I have a great memory of painting while talking to and swaying a sweet naked two year old on one hip.

Currently, my boys are in grade school, and I have an official studio/office space in our home. I have mapped out times for working and creating and squeeze in many other times as well. I paint while they play, I paint while holding them on my hip, and I paint with them. I do what I can do in the time I have and I still don’t beat myself up because I know that I am doing my best! At the same time, I am always working toward improving my painting skills, bettering my time management skills, further simplifying the schedule and home, and self-improvement as a mother and a human.

NM:  Your two little boys must love being around art all the time.  Do they enjoy painting as well?

KB:  Oh yes! My six year old son sold his first painting this past summer, to someone he didn’t know. And that thrilled him. They both love to paint, they love to create, strategize and develop products and publications. They are tiny entrepreneurs and daddy and I are their biggest fans and biggest collectors. To watch those boys bloom is pure joy.

NM:  What advice would you offer to someone who wants to follow their passion as a profession?

KB:  Stop what you are doing right now and do something towards your goal. Paint ten lines, write two paragraphs, sew for fifteen minutes. Then, do it again tomorrow, but for a little longer. Repeat.

Every day, move forward. My motto used to be “Make Progress Everyday”. And I did. Later, my motto became “Paint EVERY Day”. And I did. Now, one of my mottos is to “Work Smarter” and I have created tools to help me to do that. This whole thing is a process, and that has to be understood. You don’t wake up one day and discover you are where you want to be. But you can take a step forward every day. More advice, of course, is to not listen to anyone who questions your passion as a profession. Believe in yourself, carve out a place for your work, simplify your life so that you can make time for what you love. Simplify your schedule and your to-do list, and just do it. Junk the to-dos that don’t matter and donate the stuff that gets in your way. Start creating today!

NM:  Thank you so much for your time and for the opportunity to talk with you, Katie!

Katie is generously offering Natureal Mom readers 15% off from September 19, 2012 to October 3, 2012.  Katie’s work is rarely discounted so this is a perfect opportunity to own one of these truly special pieces! 

Visit http://www.kmberggren.com/shop and enter promotional code: natureal

Update: The above promotion has expired, however, Natureal Mom readers can get Free Shipping from Katie’s new online studio shop on April 29th & 30th with coupon code: MAMASHIP. Just in time for Mother’s Day! ♥

 

Mama to Mama: Words of Wisdom for New Mothers

“Absorb” by Katie m. Berggren

A deep heartfelt thank you to all my wonderful mama friends for contributing to this post by sharing your personal experiences and sage advice for new mothers and mothers-to-be ♥

  1. Listen, and look into the eyes of your child. He or she will tell you what they need.
  2. Consider joining a new mothers group and/or breastfeeding support group like La Leche League. It is a place to find understanding, sisterhood, knowledge and support. Together you can problem-solve and share the wisdom that you collectively have as mothers of newborns.
  3. You may not bond with your baby immediately, but it’s okay.
  4. Your mood affects your baby’s mood. If you’re feeling anxious, stressed or overwhelmed, take a few minutes to breathe and reset your energy.
  5. Nobody knows your child the way you do. Trust yourself always & your instincts.
  6. When my babe has a meltdown, stepping outside for some fresh air makes everything alright in his world.
  7. Breastfeeding can be a learned art and doesn’t always just happen.  It may take some effort but is mutually beneficial in so many ways. The bonding time is absolutely priceless, and truly a moment to treasure.  If it is something you desire, don’t give up without getting help and support.
  8. Have fun with your kids, laugh with them, make memories. Children remember having fun more than they remember having things. When they’re older, they will look back and remember fun things you did together, not the expensive parties, designer clothes or fancy toys they had.
  9. You WILL mess up.  It’s OK.  There is no such thing as the perfect parent.
  10. Don’t be too dogmatic towards any one direction. I learned the most important thing is being open and going with the flow.
  11. Take a ton of pictures. They really, truly grow up way too fast & you’ll be so happy with all the seemingly redundant, interesting-to-no-one-else-but-you pictures.
  12. Above all else, you and your baby are the most important concern ~ be together, sleep together, look at each other, snuggle skin to skin, enjoy each other.
  13. Be okay with saying “this is what works for us” when folks give their advice on how you should change or do things their way. Listen to all the advice but only do what you feel is best for your family.
  14. Ask for help and accept it when it’s offered – whatever it is, lactation consultant, asking for someone to bring meals (check out Meal Baby), letting messes pile up, hiring someone if you can, etc.  It’s okay not to be able to do it all. When they say it takes a village, sometimes it literally does.
  15. I learned not to be judgmental of other mom’s parenting choices and not letting judgy moms affect my choices.
  16. Take photos, get their feet and hand printed and make notes in a book for your babe ~ little letters are good. Don’t stress over having a perfect scrap book, something is better than nothing.
  17. Find a special song to sing to your little one.
  18. When something seems fishy, don’t necessarily Google it! You might be freaked out more than necessary.
  19. If you have a partner, it’s so important to get them involved straight away. It’s easy to feel left out and insignificant at this stage. Get them to help with bathing, changing diapers, swaddling, and feeding if that applies. Make a point of encouraging them – tell them they’re doing a great job, even if you might have done a better job with the diaper!
  20. I had post-partum depression, and I had no idea. I wish I had been better informed about what needs attention. The women in my community encouraged me to get help and I went to a wonderful homeopath and could not believe how much better I was after she began to treat me.
  21. It’s easy to really let yourself go and difficult for a lot of women to “get your mojo back.” Don’t be so hard on yourself. There must be forgiveness and balance with all of it.
  22. Just when you think you got your kids figured out, they move on to the next thing. I mastered diapers and now my daughter is onto pull-ups. Or I found the right way to swaddle and now my son is rolling over and can’t be swaddled anymore.
  23. Everyone says this one for a reason… sleep when the baby sleeps!
  24. To keep your relationship strong when two become three, I would say this: Be gentle with each other. Be patient. Recognize that parenting really is a full-time job, and work out between you how you can work together and share the load.
  25. Take care of yourself. We get so busy taking care of our tiny, precious one that we sometimes forget about ourselves. Make sure you are eating well and drinking enough water.
  26. It’s okay to not get everything done in one day like you used to prior to having baby. Chores and errands can wait.
  27. Do something nice for yourself every single day.
  28. Be the person you want your children to be…because they are always watching.
  29. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You are doing the best you can.
  30. Kiss & hug them as much as you can.  Savor every single moment possible. It goes by far too fast.

Do you have some words of wisdom to share? Please add to the list by commenting below!

 

Your Own Song

A woman in my local Holistic Mom’s Network chapter shared a beautiful story about how a certain African tribe comes together and uses song to remind us of who we really are. Touching my heart with inspiring words of wisdom, I share this story with you.

There is a tribe in Africa where the birth date of a child is not counted on the day of his birth or when he was conceived, but on the day he was a thought in his mother’s mind.

She would go out into the wilderness and sit under a tree and listen until she heard the song of the child, for every soul has its own vibration that expresses its unique purpose. She would then return to the tribe and teach it to the midwives and older women in the village who would also sing the child’s song.

When the child is born, the community gathers and sings the child’s song to him or her. Later, when the child enters education, the village gathers and chants the child’s song. When the child passes through the initiation to adulthood, the people again come together and sing. At the time of marriage, the union hears their song. Finally, when the his or her soul is about to pass from this world, the community gathers again, just as they did at his or her birth, to sing the soul into the next life.

There is one other occasion upon which the village would sing to the child. If at any time during his or her life, the person commits a crime or aberrant act, the individual is called to the center of the village and the people in the community form a circle around him or her and sing the song.

The tribe recognizes that the correction for negative behavior is not punishment, but rather love and the remembrance of identity. When you recognize your own song, you have no desire to do anything that would hurt yourself or another.

We all have times in our life when we get off course and lose sight of who we are.  The essence of who we truly are is often hidden by our perceived limitations, mistakes, insecurities and fears. We all have a unique melody that we came into this world to express, and when we’ve forgotten the words to our song, our friends, family and community are there to sing it back to us!

 

5 Lessons

A year ago today we welcomed our sweet baby boy into the world. He has brought a renewed sense of purpose to my life and has shown me the true meaning of unconditional love. In honor of his first birthday, I would like to share five meaningful lessons my son has taught me.

1. BE SIMPLE. Children live in the present moment without thinking, they just feel. They are free from tension, anxiety, stress and fear. They don’t worry about making mistakes or what other people think. They have a sense of wonder and pure joy. They create without abandon and lose themselves in play. My babe has found joy in tasting new foods, splishing and splashing around in the bath, exploring natural objects and toys, banging on drums, grooving to music and making silly faces. He has taught me how to be more simple, relaxed and care-free.

2. TRUST YOURSELF.  I learned early on in my pregnancy to trust my intuition, follow my instincts and be an advocate for my health and well-being. With that comes freedom, self-empowerment and confidence. This really blossomed in my first year as a mother. There are so many parenting books, philosophies and styles and well-intentioned people who want to be helpful by giving clothes, toys, and advice on child-rearing. I’m not saying I don’t read any books or listen to opinions but I ultimately have to trust myself and make decisions based on what feels right to me and from my knowledge of my own child.

3. IT’S OKAY TO CRY. Every time my little guy smiles or bursts out in laughter I can’t help but to smile and giggle back. But when he is unhappy (usually when I pull him off of one of our dogs) he will throw his head back, let out a cry and tears will flow from his big eyes. His smile is a reminder that I can find joy in the small things, but his cry is also a reminder that sometimes I need to free up my own tears when I am upset or hurt. It is good to find the joy in life, but it is equally important to acknowledge the pain that is inevitable in order to move past it.

4. BE OBSERVANT. From the moment our little one came into this world his eyes have been full of wonder. You can almost see the wheels turning in his inquisitive mind. He studies people’s faces, picking up on their energies and moods and points at birds, flowers and squirrels when we go for walks. The observant way in which he lives his life reminds me of the importance of not getting caught up in everyday nuances and paying attention to the world around me, a world full of beauty, diversity and possibility. It is a truly wondrous place with miracles happening at every moment.

5. TIME IS PRECIOUS. My parent friends and I constantly marvel at “how quickly the time passes.” My son and the changes he’s experienced in his one year of existence in this realm remind me of the capability of people to significantly grow in every aspect over the years of a lifetime. I am reminded of the importance to cherish, respect and fully utilize that time.

I am extremely blessed to have this precious child in my life, not only as the son that I have the honor of raising, but also as my teacher.